Self Reflections

 

Kopi and policy reviews with a single mother. Apparently she has not gotten any updates from her ex-agent and so many riders and protections had lapsed and declined over few years. So we met and doing a major clean up for her portfolio this weekend. She shared with me her life as a single mother and her arranged marriage. My work has thought me alot about empathy and to appreciate what i have and also to help others if i can. So i offered her my listening ear. I hope she felt better after that.

“Self Reflection”

The journey from Bukit Merah to Redhill to Lavender to the bus ride home to Boon Keng made me reflect on myself. Nothing serious but a little reflection on myself not to nag at my husband too much ! I worry about my husband too much sometimes. Just like when im in Korea, my hubs worry about me alot..he scared i got cheated lah..got harassed or disturbed by drunkards at night lah or lost my way etc because after all im a foreigner in Korea and i go out on my own when he meets his friends or go for baseball games. So of cos i will worry about him lah. Im a “worrier”..don’t think got such word but my ex-boss called me that because im always worried about work even when im travelling or on holiday and about anything. So she gave me this tiny nickname. Sometimes i also worry if my clients understand what i explained not. So i can be abit lor sor sometimes. I will inform them in advance lol that please stop me if im too lor sor.

While im like not pleased with my hubs not helping me with simple things like laundry or cooking at times, there are others with more problems like abusive partners and infidelity etc.

After i got home from the appointment with client, i went back and asked hubs to call his mum. My MIL is a single mum. Before my hubs dated me, he told me his future wife must be able to love and take care of his mother like her own and have a good 婆媳 relationship. Will share more next time. She really been through alot. When i met my client who is a single mother, i can understand abit of her feelings. If you are a single mum, stay positive and jiayou okay !

Korean Food Recipe – Spicy Pork Belly Bbq ! 양념돼지고기 #sgahjumma

Ehh i realized some people have problems finding certain posts on my blog. So i decided to break down into different titles from now onwards. I have like hundreds of old posts so it is impossible to edit all since i jumbled up my food recipes, shopping, skincare and smartlady posts together.

Remember i was blogging about Yang Nyeom Pork Belly (spicy pork belly) ? Hehe i finally made it like a month ago. I haven’t made this for quite some time so finally i had the chance to and decided to share the recipe.

It is really very easy to cook.

You can buy freshly sliced thick pork belly from fairprice finest or cold storage.

How to make the sauce ?

1 tbs of minced garlic

2 tbs of Korean chilli paste

2 tbs of Korean chilli powder

2 tbs of Korean soya sauce

1 teaspoon of sesame oil

1 teaspoon of corn syrup

1 teaspoon of vinegar

2 teaspoon of sugar

Mix them all together in a bowl.

Marinate the pork belly with the sauce and keep in the fridge to let it set for about half a day. And you are ready to bbq it ! It is sooo yummy! Wrap with lettuce and kimchi …wah damn shiok !

My hubs loves it. I call this sauce the multi purpose sauce haha. Cos can use it to marinate with pork belly shabu shabu or the thick pork belly for bbq. Or you can replace with beef. But it taste better with pork lah!

Hehe #sgahjumma is here to teach you good tips and now you can have yummy Korean food at home.

Hubs and i never really go out for Korean food already cos i cook at home often esp during weekends. My hubs is quite a traditional Korean man. He likes to come home with food on the table. Not really a must to cook but he prefers it. Also good for him..else he have stomache upset everytime he have food outside especially when he drink. His digestive system is not very good. He just had colonscopy done last year in KR and took out a lump lor. So i try to cook often for him. I don’t put alot of salt and i don’t use msg. I use all the sauce recipes passed on to me by my own mother and mother-in-law. So i make all the marinates myself.

Some people asked me where did i find the time to do marketing and grocery shopping ? Well i don’t do it everyday lah. I have to work leh!

I fix my client appointments one week in advance. So i know my schedules for next week and when can i cook at home. Then i will plan my grocery marketing on every sunday mornings.

Then how come i have time to cook leh ???

I not full time housewife leh. I have to work and go for client appointments. Sometimes after night appointments i come back KO immediately.

If i know tomorrow evening i do not have appointment, i will marinate the meats (if any) the night before and keep in the fridge. When i come home next day evening, i just need to oil the pan and throw the thing in. Some days i will steam fish..so i just prep the ginger and ingredients and put the fish on a plate wrapped with cling wrap. Next evening just take out and steam.

So basically i prep my stuff the night before for tomorrow’s dinner.

How i plan my grocery shopping ?

I don’t shop at supermarkets unless bo bian i dont have time to go to wet market. I prefer to buy from wet markets cos i can buy ala carte. Lol cos i have to work and i don’t cook everyday, i do not need a big bag of green chillis or garlics/gingers etc. Plus it is cheaper at wetmarkets. I keep my expenses or should i call it “cost” per meal at $10. Unless it includes pork belly or bbq, i will up to $15.

Eh can one. Keep your daily expenses to $20 per day. Let me share in my next #smartlady posts. Now i can access wordpress via app, haha i can update when im on the move to appointments. I don’t drive…i take public transport hehe.

My hubs sometimes will accompany me to do my grocery shopping so he can help me to carry. He just let me do all the buying and choosing. His job is to safe guard my trolley haha.

I am really an ahjumma liao. We work our finances in traditional Korean way. Which is the husband will give all his salary to his wife and the wife will manage all the groceries, housing expenses, kids expenses etc and even investments. To some non-Koreans, they view it as “no pride” and no face 没面子 if i have to give my wife all my money and receive pocket money. But to a Korean, it is his responsibility to provide for his family and to work and bring money back. The wife takes care of whatever is in the house. The guy usually pays for the house and wedding and the lady will pay for furnitures. This is the traditional way.

I have some Korean clients and yes most of the time i have to go through the wives to get things done up like insurances and saving plans. But these days, things change and some couples do not follow this traditional way. But my hubs quite traditional. I think i talked and blogged about it before lol. But still almost every month i get asked this questions.

Though im not Korean and working, my hubs still give me all his salary. He don’t put into my account. But i have access to his accounts. Some of my Singaporean friends ask me how do i make my husband trusts me with his money ? Hmmm i think because i do not anyhow spend money and i also plan the finances and investments very carefully ? That is what my hubs told me. I review with him our finances and portfolio every month lol. I do investments but also make sure we have liquidity. Our insurances also i settle swee swee liao. My hubs say if im a spendthrift, he wouldn’t give me and will prefer to keep finances separate.

Haha i think i talked about this before. But recently got people ask me again. Im being asked this questions many times.

I just cleared some of emails from spam. I didn’t know so many got in there until i clicked spam box. Just moved some to inbox and will reply this weekend !

My 32nd Birthday!

Celebrated my 32nd birthday with neighbours. Thank you for organising this party. Ha..i kinda ruined my own bday surprise.

I made an evening appt with a client that day because i thought we are just having a simple potluck or cookout. And perhaps i can leave abit early. One of the girls later revealed that they planned this surprise for me and i am the main lead haha so i must stay. Coincidentally my client texted me the next day to reschedule because she has a family dinner! Lol.

We had laksa and popiah from Qiji and Pizzas. I suggest to eat the laksa and popiah at Qiji better. The delivery one is abit off standard. Very dry and laksa soup not much taste and we have to put alot chilli.

But i was really touched by my neighbours’ effort. And they also ordered the cake from an organisation which is doing fundraising for needy kids. Cannot remember the exact charity organisation but the cake was damn good. Can do good deeds and eat yummy cake at the same time!

Wah updating via wordpress app is sooo convenient leh. Works like dayre. Im damn suaku lah. Now then i know. I do not need to go home and on laptop and do all the pictures transfer somemore. Cos everytime when i reached home after work, switch on the laptop, showered and i want to KO already. So i will switch off my laptop.

I enjoy blogging because i can share good deals. And also i can throw my thoughts out here. And it feels comforted to know people who are in the same situation as me and feels like someone understands you.

I don’t really throw all my thoughts to my husband. Because he is stress or tired enough after work. Only very serious things then i will talk to him.

Even if i share with him about skincare, latest gmarket discount codes etc he also don’t really bother lah. Haha he knows i like to add things into cart to feel good nia and never buy in the end. Which is true lah. The feeling of adding things into cart feels shiok mah but don’t feel shiok when you look at the total amount and have to pay. Lol.

But Asos having 20% off leh. Very tempted but just 忍.

North Korea and South Korea had a summit few weeks ago at the DMZ. Many people asked me about me and my hubs houghts and some asked if my Hubs is excited that Kim Jong Un is coming to Singapore where Kim Jong Un and Trump will meet face to face in a high profile meeting on 12th June 2018.

My hubs replied that he is South Korean …not North Korean lol. Kim Jong Un is not his president. But he hopes that North and South reunification will happen.

Share shall more thoughts after having nuggets for supper.

WordPress and Dayre

Back from 3D2N in Shanghai. Wah so suaku i didn’t know i can access to wordpress via app. I moved abit of my thoughts to dayre but still on wordpress. Alittle more active there but here is the place where i can throw out all my thoughts in chunks if paragraphs lol. Dayre word limit per post is abit annoying leh. Be back here soon this week..after my client appointments.

K-Shopping Online

Just to share some tips on shopping for Korean skincare and make ups !

My orders from gmarket last December for the whole of 2018. I got myself eye shadows, lipsticks and skincare products.

 

Hubs has friends who works for big cosmetic firms like Amore Pacific and LG in SG and Korea. So some of them warned me about buying “fake products” online. And a friend of mine who is a licensed distributor in Korea and Asia told me that some shops in SG and other countries do not want to import direct from Korea because they find the cost price more expensive and they got it from elsewhere because it is cheap and China is one of those countries. Not saying that all products from CHINA are fakes or no good. But if you are getting products from unregistered distributors then is fishy. Oppa’s Korean friend and hyung (older bro) who works in SG’s Amore Pacific also spoke to me about fakes being sold online. Cosmetics are something you apply on your face and you spend that $$ for that brand to expect some results or to look good. So becareful when you buy any cosmetics online.

 

So when i buy from Gmarket , i buy direct from the brand or department stores.

Here are some shops i go to :

AmorePacific_Living (for toothpastes , shampoos etc )

Amore_Pacific

 

Through Amore Pacific , you can buy from brands like Iope, Laneige sales event or sets , Mamonde etc.

I got Mamonde lipsticks in Jan during 1+1 event for KRW 15,900

(you will see”1+1″ often on Korean street shops and websites. It means buy 1 get 1 free)

 

GlobalHmall (Hyundai Department Store Global Online). GlobalHMall is where i got my AHC skin careproducts

 

and for brands like Innisfree , Nature republic , Etude House etc i will go direct to their online store on gmarket.

 

Is it more expensive to buy from them than other small unknown shops ? 

Not really. Infact these shops sometimes have discount coupons which you need to download with your gmarket account. In Jan and Feb, Gmarket was having alot of discounts and i saved almost KRW 20,000 for everything.

Are the shipping fees expensive ?

It depends on the weight of item. Of cos if you buy shampoos and body lotions , your shipping fees will be more expensive and not worth it because you are paying for the weight. However Gmarket do have discounts on shipping fees ! They ship via EMS and it is very fast. Your orders will go to the gmarket head quarters which will then be combined with all other orders and they will be sent out via EMS straight to your home. It is quite fast. Let’s say if Gmarket ships out your order on Monday , it will arrive SG on Tuesday or Wed so you can expect to receive your parcel from EMS by Wed or Thurs. It comes with EMS tracking number.

You can choose using EMS or SF Express .

 

 

What is the payment method ?
You can pay via Singapore’s credit card , debit card or paypal account.

 

So what is the difference between buying in SG or in Korea ?
I will say for some things are cheaper even after factor in the exchange rates and shipping fees.
What i do is that i only buy when i need it and in bulk when the exchange rate floats around SGD 1 = KRW 830 and when there are discount coupons and shipping discounts. And also buying online allows me to buy brands that are not available in SG.

 

However , i go Korea once or twice a year. So most of the time i buy when i go over and stock up a year supply. Unless i used finish my skincare or my blushers/eye shadows broke into pieces (happens often esp in public toilet when it slips and dropped into the sink or floor. I will also make use of these discount coupons or events to order and ship to my MIL’s place and i bring back to SG since shipping in Korea is free and is very efficient. I can order from Hyundai Mall / Lotte Mall or Shinsaegae this morning and receive it next afternoon or evening. Their shipping is damn fast and efficient. The stuff can be shipped out within few hours after you made the payment. Also , you can cancel your order before they ship out. The $ will be refunded back to your credit card quite fast.

 

Yup , that is how i got some of my Korean skincare when i ran out of them.

CNY

* Gosh, this post was in Private view mode for a MONTH sine 12th March ! Didn’t realized it till now. *

This is the first time hubs and i officially celebrated CNY as a married couple.

This year , we invited guests to our place and had home cooked food. I prepared Chinese steamboat and Korean “steamboat” aka Budaejjiggae (Army Stew) .

Chinese Steamboat.

Hehe prepared this nicely plated Korean army stew for one of the dinners for a couple friend. Together with Korean chopsticks , spoons, rice, sauces and tea.

This CNY alot of friends came over to my place and i invited few clients over too for a meal.

Alot are pretty curious what i have i my washroom and make up shelves lol. Because they know that i use quite alot of Korean skincare and toiletries. So my room and toilet is machiam like a mini beauty counter. I even have small little bottles of samples to give out !

Some of my female guests will request to take a look at my toiletries , skincare and makeup. And next, they will look at my kitchen and fridge. My hubs is quite particular about the kitchen appliances we use. IT HAS TO BE MADE IN KOREA except for some lah..because it is impossible to get all in SG leh. And it is too expensive to ship them over and too heavy to even bring it back ourselves. So the only thing that is MADE IN KOREA is our talking rice cooker from Korean brand Cuckoo. And of course our TV is from Samsung.

The sauces and seasonings in our kitchen are also from Korean mart. It must be Korean salt , Korean sugar, Korean sesame oil etc when i cook Korean food at home but of cos i also have my own stash of Chinese sauces and seasonings because i just started to cook Chinese food at home this year. Korean sauces are quite expensive in SG. The cheaper choice and brand is Sempio and they can be found in Shine Mart. I usually get my sauces there because they are cheaper. Except for some soya sauces. I need good soya sauces when i marinate dishes so i get my soya sauces from Koryo Mart instead. They have more variety. But for simple ones like sesame oil , apple vinegar and red pepper paste, Shine Mart is good place to get.

I want to share a recipe for Spicy Bulgogi ! I cannot remember if i blogged about it before. But going to share it with pictures soon next week. Cooked many times and hubs loves it. Even my MIL gave 2 thumbs up and requested me to cook one more time. It is very easy to cook and marinate if you have all the sauces. Yes you make the sauce from scratch and marinate with the pork slices. I cleared the pictures off my instastory so i have to retake and blog it here.

Kimchi fried rice is the easiest to cook.

You just need kimchi , rice ( Korean or Japanese sushi rice) , luncheon meat , salted seaweed and a egg for sunny side up.

For the seasoning : Gochujang ( Korean chilli paste ) and Korean sesame oil.

Fry Kimchi with luncheon meat , add in the rice and kimchi juice.

Fri and mix till fragrant. Add 1 tea spoon of sesame oil and gochujang.

Garnish with seaweed and sunny side up and ready to serve !

This is really easy. Best is to cook with sour kimchi ! Most of the Kimchi sold in SG are quite fresh and sweet. So i will leave it out on the dining area for half a day or a day before i use it.

You can churn out kimchi fried rice within 10 minutes ! Try it !

Kbeauty : Pyunkang Yul

#Kbeauty Review !

It’s been almost 1.5months since i started using this brand Pyunkang Yul.

This brand was developed by the renowned Pyunkang Oriental Medicine Clinic in Korea.

We have the Chinese TCM here in SG whereas in Korea, they also have their traditional medicine called “Hanbang-Yak (한방약)” 

I tried the traditional medicine before. They are pretty and nicely packed for your convenience and you drink it in the morning before going to work. I don’t really like the taste. VERY bitter. But my MIL put that infront of me so i bo bian have to finish it. lol

I chanced upon this brand while i was surfing Lotte Duty Free shopping app.

I blogged about it here on how can you save your luggage weight and space. And if you travel with friends or family who doesn’t like shopping but you just die die want to buy your stuff….you can refer to this link  : https://peonykiss.com/2017/12/11/13682/ 

( I refer alot of PMs on that post , so i am going to recreate it in a new fresh post so that you can find it easily )

I bought the cleanser , serum and moisturiser. The essence toner came in FREE ! lol I wanted to get it initially but i saw that if i spend more than KRW 40,000 on Pyunkang Yul , i will get a free toner ! So of cos lah..i didn’t buy…and got the free one instead ! So remember to check out the freebies that comes with your purchase before you buy so you can save some moolahs !

 

I like their classy blue box and blue bottle packaging. Looks like Korean version of Aesop lol.

 

Pyunkang Yul Cleansing Foam 

This cleansing foam tube is quite huge and i think can last me for about 3 months if i were to use it alone. I refused to share this with my hubs lol.

Texture is very milky and i like how it foams easily and doesn’t dries up my skin after cleansing. The texture is very smooth so it makes cleansing very easy and gentle. It is easy to wash off too.

But there is something i don’t really like. The texture is quite milky such that you do not even need to squeeze the tube and the cleanser wil flow out . So when i open the cap , abit of the cleanser will flow out and drip on the floor. The cleanser works better on a pump bottle than a tube. But overall , this cleanser works well on me. Face looks clean and brightened up after cleansing.

If you have sensitive or dry skin , this cleanser should work well on you !

 

Pyunkang Yul Essence Toner

Texture is pretty smooth just like a serum. So it glides on and spreads easily on the face. Good hydrating effect and it absorbs into the skin pretty fast so you can apply the next skincare right away. I like the classy blue bottle ! Its pretty heavy and glass-like. So becareful not to break it !


 

 

 

Pyunkang Yul Moisture Cream

There are 3 different types of moisturizers in the range – Nourishing Cream , Balancing Gel and Moisture Cream .

I managed to get hold of the Moisture Cream because Nourishing Cream was out of stock at that time.

It is quite rich and suitable for people with dry skin or who sleeps in air-conditioned room at night. The cream is quite rich so i have to wait for about 10 mins before i can apply my make up. Otherwise my make up will not set and blend properly. If you have oily or combi skin , perhaps the gel will be better.

Overall , this has good moisturizing effect !

Pyunkang Yul Moisture Serum

The serum feels like emulsion and texture is quite thick and rich.  Overall it has good moisturising effect. But i find the pipette not very user friendly.

 

This range overall does have its moisturizing effects. My skin wasn’t used to it at first. Properly because of the sudden switch in skincare. But after a week, it works pretty well on my skin ! It is a brand i will definitely buy again !

And if you ask me what is the MUST buy in the list above ? I will say it is the essence toner !